So, I’ve been toying with this thought for quite a long time. As part of my growing up years, arguing is not something uncommon. People of my age tend to want to fight for something just to prove something, even when sometimes there isn’t really anything to prove.
And recently, I’ve encountered some of these arguments or disagreements and recently, I’ve found myself a habit of shutting myself off when I am about to see the bomb explodes. And when I completely shut off, it makes me feel better for a while, but inside me – I can’t wait to say something and sometimes I proceed to say it. But I know very well that my head tells me very clearly that I should stay away, but sometimes, for the sake of being right – I continue. Yes, stubborn, foolish – whatever negative words you want to call it; just go add on it.
My question now would be – should I stay away or should I continue to fight my way through?
In my 25 years of life, I’ve learnt that arguments never make anyone feel good, so why do we even get on it. Sorry but those excuses of arguments and disagreement makes any relationships stronger is utter crap or at least, I feel otherwise. It’s pretty simple isn’t it – you argue and argue and risk losing a relationship or friendship and really, does it make it goes stronger?
If anyone had a choice, do you really think you would choose arguments for the sake of strengthening the friendship or relationship? I doubt.
With all these in my head, I can’t help but to believe there seasons to these things just like how there is a season to all my gadgets and devices failing me. We all have our own downtime and seasons of unhappiness but that doesn’t give us a single right to lash it out on people closest to us. But the good side to this is that I’ve been reading a lot.
Because of work, I read a lot of articles as and when I can – on relationships, finances, friendships, economics, healthcare and all but I’m no expert in any. If I was, then my life would be so perfect kan?
But here are a couple of things I learn recently in terms of strengthening friendships and relationships with so many things in my head:
I am no specialist. But I am jotting this down here to remind myself that growing up is tough – it involves fights, arguments and disagreements but that doesn’t mean we should let it bring us down.
This is not an emo post, I’m perfectly fine.
Disclaimer: They say: Siapa makan cili, dia terasa pedas. If you think this blog is talking about you, no I don’t think so. HAHA.
As I am growing older, I realised that I don’t get to go out or hang out as much as I would really want to. So, I’ve been thinking about this the past couple of days (coupled with a few issues I have been facing) of where the heck do I get content for this blog to keep it moving. So, this random idea came out while I was driving to share some Real Life Stories.
As a young adult now, there are a lot of growing up pains – relationships, friendships, finance, work, dreams or even passion. I am no different, I go through all of them. I hope this platform serves as a reminder to myself and to you that you’re never alone. There are times when things all look great and fantastic, but we all know deep down – we’re just humans with emotions and feelings.
No, I don’t intend for this segment of the blog to be emo or fill with dramas, it could be a short and simple one – but I hope for some people to chip in your views and thoughts on how things could potentially work better for you and I.
To kickstart this, I’ve been going through some rough and tough times the past couple of weeks. I’ve learnt a lot of things, and yet there are some things I’ve been very reluctant to give up. Or maybe, there are some people I’ve been very reluctant to leave. And just keep reading on this blog! More stories on my next post on this!